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Cheat sheets.

If you only do one thing, take my cheat sheet. Pick the one that sounds most like you. Each is one page of plain, doable things, with nothing to believe first.

Strangers helping one another on a busy street.
For everyone
The one questionThe whole answer key in a minute: Is this what a human being does?Read it
A young man carries an older woman's groceries up the steps.
Everyday life
Cheat sheet for everyday lifeMost of the test is small, public and over in five seconds.Open the sheet
A grandparent and a child look up at the Milky Way from a rooftop.
Elders
Cheat sheet for eldersYou have time and stories, the two things everyone else is short of.Open the sheet
Students and a teacher in a classroom, hands raised.
For your teens
Cheat sheet for your teensRemember: this site is 18+ only. This sheet is for you to read and hand to your teens, not for them to browse the site. They are not too young for the practice. They may be the best at it, because they haven't learned to look away yet.Open the sheet
A parent kneels to listen to a child.
Parents
Cheat sheet for parentsChildren learn what humans are by watching you. The test starts at the kitchen table.Open the sheet
A woman lays out plans for a table of colleagues.
People in charge
Cheat sheet for people in chargeThe test asks more of you: more people can see you, and fewer will tell you the truth.Open the sheet
A man walks down a long hallway toward the light.
Inside
Cheat sheet for people in prisonYou can't control much in there. You can control what you show. Pick acts that are safe for you, and put your safety first.Open the sheet
A man sits on a porch looking over his town at dusk.
Second chance
Cheat sheet for people who haven't held up their endBroken promises, unpaid debts, missing from someone's life. It isn't too late, and it starts smaller than you think.Open the sheet
A woman and a child climb a path up a hillside.
Building meaning
Cheat sheet for building a life that mattersMeaning is rarely found. It is built, one repeated act at a time, usually with other people.Open the sheet

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Everyday lifeEldersFor your teensParentsPeople in chargeInsideSecond chanceBuilding meaning

Why these

Giving is not for nothing. In controlled studies, people who spent money on others reported more happiness than people who spent it on themselves, and a later cross-cultural study found the same pattern across many countries. That is the lift, measured.
Dunn, Aknin and Norton, Science, 2008 · Aknin and colleagues, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2013 · Post, International Journal of Behavioral Medicine, 2005

Not every hardship is a test, and nothing here asks anyone to stay where they are being hurt. If you are struggling, please talk to someone you trust. In the US you can call or text 988. Elsewhere, findahelpline.com lists services by country.